I spend much more time thinking about the future. Of course, it doesn’t mean that my past has no impact on my life. It does! And sometimes, I also understand that particular past events cause some present behaviors.
However, as I discussed in a previous question, I have no power over the past. It simply happened, with sound or dire consequences, but it’s now out of my control.
When I understand that, for example, a reaction is related to something I lived in during my childhood, I feel anger, anxiety, or another negative emotion. But, immediately after the “explosion,” I constantly refocus on my present and think: “This is what I have to build my future. All the energy conveyed into anger should be used to empower my current will.“
I have firsthand experience that this approach effectively achieves challenging goals despite low optimism.
My motto is: “The road is always ahead,” and it’s where I want to go. I am myself today because I was “someone else” in the past. It’s time to capitalize on my errors and take another step forward. And then another one, and so forth. Forever!
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